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How to let go of what doesn’t serve you anymore.

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Well where do I start letting go of what doesn’t serve you isn’t easy.

It can change your whole life, you can loose friends, jobs, partners and even your physical identity. You can feel like you have stripped your whole identity bare.

You feel vulnerable and things feel really bad before they get better. This is part of healing.

We always hold on to things without even asking if they make us happy or feel good for the right reasons.

This is because we are not in touch with our emotions we fear change because it can’t be controlled.

The world that surrounds us is always changing, the seasons, the moon phases, our bodies. We can’t control it, the universe doesn’t hold on to anything that doesn’t serve her.

Area’s you can work on letting go of what doesn’t serve you.

Personal life/relationships

The friends you have do they care about your well-being do they have good intentions, I have friends and they know I don’t socialize much because I find it overwhelming. They respect my boundaries, if they didn’t like this in the past I would let go of those friendships and move on. It’s a tough thing to do as these people may still want to be in your life, protect your space and be firm with your boundaries don’t be scared to offend them if it’s with good intentions for your own mental health.

Career/success

Is the job your doing helping you become a better person? Are you over worked in a stressful environment? Everyone is always scared to change jobs especially when they thought it was their dream job then to find out it makes you unhappy but pleases family members who think your successful.

It’s okay to experience things and move on it’s part of growing your not a failure for changing your mind about what job feels right for you. We’re the ones who go there and get payed so do it for you. I changed jobs it was a big step for me but I wasn’t being treated rightfully like I deserved.

I had to let go of the perception that success is valued by your career, The thing is being successful can be stressful if you perceive success with career you can still end up unhappy in a stressful environment. This is why success shouldn’t be relied on for happiness, society has been taught to get the two mixed up.

Self image/beauty

I let go of wearing so much makeup all the time, I finally realized I would wear alot of makeup because I felt uncomfortable in my own bare skin.

So I decided to break this negative relationship with beauty and makeup. I still wear it just not everyday and if I’m going to put it on I’m going to be mindful about how I feel within myself and remember I am beautiful, loved and valued without it. I don’t put it on if it’s not serving me that day.

If i am feeling confident and comfortable that day I can put it on without associating it with negative thoughts about myself.

Consumerism

I stopped consuming so much material things for the dopamine hit my body was craving, once your aware of the physical and chemical reactions over consuming can do to your body, your a step closer to being more mindful about the stuff you are buying that doesn’t serve you anymore. It’s easy to over consume with online shopping but I have learnt in recent years if I want something to wait a week or two and see if the urge is gone. If I look at my past quick purchases such as my ukele once I have brought it my interest and commitment low.

It is also better for the planet if we start to buy things more environmental friendly and use our old items first.

Surroundings/exposure

I limit my screen time reading more books, going out in nature and being creative with my hobbies, I spend my time consuming things of good nature.

I have un followed any accounts on social media that I don’t resonate with. There is a lot of advertising and negative beliefs pressured on us from society and social media. If we over expose ourselves it can be un-healthy.

Start your journey

You don’t have to do it all, just be present start listening to your intuition about what your mind and body really needs and your life will start changing.

Layla.

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Gaia was free and untouched.

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A poem written by Layla Robinson.

Once upon a time Gaia was free her soul danced and flowed in nature. Untouched and Un-poisoned. She healed earth with her eco systems.

She directed her elemental workers perfectly, She birthed amazing creatures and plants. She could move mountains and free water, Her spirit was untamed. Her knowledge was beyond what we know.

She stored energy and memory. She was in charge of evolution and directed all creatures big and small, she helped them adapt and change to her environment.

She made the human, humans disregarded all she had taught them. They banished her teachings and abused her spirit, She is broken.

She will only speak with the ones who understand, the ones who listen and still open their ears to her teachings. 

She whispers until the human does not walk my soils that feed them I will be broken.

Photo by Sippakorn Yamkasikorn from Pexels

The soil is the whole of earth it is one and she is Gaia, we have covered our ears and poisoned our truth I don’t know if we will ever hear Gaia again.

I come from Generation’s of Shepard’s in the Cyprus mountains, generation’s of country folk of West Virginia usa.

They knew Gaia her curves and mountains, when to grow and when to harvest. They hunted and gathered. My Nene harvested salt from the ocean and climbed olive tree’s.

She went to work with her father who was a shepard to his goats. She knew the land just as we’re supposed to. Gaia helped the goats and the goats helped my family survive.

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West Virginia I imagine forest and mountains, Land luscious with animals and country roads. I have never met you West Virginia but I know you are beautiful.

I will not give up on Gaia I will do my ancestors proud, they may have been poor but they were abundant with mother earth and her spirit.

I am abundant with mother earth and all she offers I do not cut off the flow of her divine spirit it will forever flow through me and my children after me will know her name.

Layla.

Why connecting with nature is important.

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If you are able to spare a few coins a month joining your local wildlife trust is very beneficial, I recently joined the Sussex wildlife trust and by becoming a member you are helping the charity educate the public and protect our wildlife conservation.

A lot of people live a fast paced lifestyle meaning more and more of us are spending less time out in nature, which in fact is very unnatural for us and has impacted the environment and ecosystem massively.

We all seem to be stuck in the digital world disconnecting us from the impact of what is really happening around us.

If anyone is best to explain this it would be Sir David Attenborough.

Sometimes we need reminding that we are indeed animals too, we have needs like your pet does and when those enrichments are taken away a lot of us suffer mentally. I’m not saying we are like cats or dogs but just reminding you we are not robots and living in a digital world can disconnect us from our senses.

Not only that nature needs us to help restore the damage we have caused e.g Deforestation, polluting our oceans and check out our animal endangered list it is happening in the uk and all around the world.

The house sparrow I pictured above from my garden is a species in decline. Most of the time this happens because of the effects of humans.

I have always been connected with nature it’s drummed in to me, I understand not everyone has that and it’s fine.

So I want to help those who are not connected to understand why nature is so important.

It won’t hurt I promise 🤣

Now I don’t expect everyone to be the next bear grylls but one small change can still impact your local wildlife conservation.

So I’m going to make a few articles explaining what changes we can make to help nature and how we can slow our lifestyle down.

Thank you for reading Laylasgardendiaries.